For any adult with intellectual disabilities, the journey toward living as independently as possible is both exciting and meaningful. Moving out of home is a big step and, like any big life change, it’s easier and more successful with thoughtful planning and the right support system in place.
If you’re wondering where to start when planning to move out of home, one of the most helpful and empowering tools to start with is something called a Relationship Circle.
What Is a Relationship Circle?
A Relationship Circle is a simple but powerful way to map out the people and supports in your life. It includes friends, family members, and organizations that can support you in different ways as you move toward living more independently.
Identifying the people and organizations in your Relationship Circle is about connection, community, and making sure you feel supported, safe, and included in your new home.
Your Relationship Circle can help answer important questions like:
- Who can I call if I need help?
- Who do I want to spend time with regularly?
- Who can support me in reaching my goals?
Why Knowing Your Relationship Circle Matters
When thinking about how to plan to move out of home, it’s easy to focus only on things like housing, finances, or daily routines. But your support network is just as important. For an adult with intellectual disabilities, having a clear understanding of your Relationship Circle can:
- build confidence in your ability to live more independently
- help identify where support is already strong
- highlight any gaps where additional support may be needed
- make the transition smoother and less stressful
Most importantly, it puts you at the centre of the planning process and shows the people in your life that know you and want to see you succeed.
Who Is in a Relationship Circle?
Everyone’s Relationship Circle is unique so it’s important to think about the different people and supports in your life and the roles they play. Here are a few places to start:
1. Family and Relatives
Consider the family members who are part of your daily life now.
- Who supports you regularly?
- Who lives nearby or could be available when you need help?
- How might their role change as you begin living more independently
2. Friends and Social Connections
Friendships are an important part of living as independently as possible—they bring joy, connection, and a sense of belonging. Think about the people you enjoy spending time with.
- Do you have friends from work, school, or activities?
- Who do you trust and feel comfortable with?
- How can these relationships continue to grow as you move into your own home?
3. Community and Funded Supports
You may already have access to community programs or funded supports but planning early helps ensure there are no gaps in support during your transition. Consider:
- What services are you currently using?
- Will they continue in your new living arrangement?
- Do you need to make any changes or applications ahead of time?
4. Paid Supports
If you currently receive paid support, it’s important to think about how that will continue.
- Can your current supports transition with you?
- Will your needs change in a new environment?
- Are there additional supports available to help you live more independently?
A Helpful Tool to Get Started
A Relationship Circle worksheet can be a great way to visualize your support network and start meaningful conversations about your future.
The worksheet from Inclusion BC and Community Living BC is a helpful starting point. Many of our members have found it useful when planning next steps toward independent living.
Moving Forward At Your Own Pace
There’s no single path for an adult with intellectual disabilities when it comes to moving out and living as independently as possible. Every journey is personal and every step forward, big or small, matters. Building your Relationship Circle is just one step that can help you understand who is in your corner and how you can work together to plan a future that feels right for you.
If you or someone you love is currently exploring a plan to move out of home, what tools or supports have been most helpful for you?
